Greedy With Friends

If I wasn’t originally invited to an event, I usually turn down second-hand invitations. I assume there was a reason why I wasn’t invited, and it’d be disrespectful on the other guests’ part to invite me without the host being aware.

Not only that but every group of friends has their own special bond and I wouldn’t want to feel like an outsider. Which is why when I go out with friends it saddens me when they invite someone from one of their other social circles.

People act differently around their different friends, because their history is different. It’s like you have a template of behaviors/mannerisms for each friend, and by inviting this person into our social circle you’re screwing with everyone’s template because now they need to adapt to this new person.

Don’t get me wrong I don’t mind meeting new people. I’m just saying you can’t just spring it on them, it needs to be done in a careful way.

I might be thinking too deeply about this, but I think it’s dead on. Friendships need to be handled with care.