Strong Women?

Most of the women in my life see a need and meet it. They don’t concern themselves with who’s supposed to meet it but didn’t, who is slacking off, or who could do it but refuses to…No, they see something that has to be done and do it. Other people see this characteristic in them, and decide to take advantage of it. They ask them for favors, tell them what to do, and when slack needs to be picked up, they turn to these women to get it done.

If these women slack off, or refuse to do the extra work, they are looked down on, guilted into doing the work, or are reprimanded.

At this point you may be wondering why they put up with this..I believe it’s partly because they know it’s a lost cost. The people they are dealing with are stubborn, or in higher power. Also a stale mate is usually out of the question, because it’s not only their lives that will be affected. For example, if their mother needs to be driven to an appointment, and all their siblings refuse to do it, they can’t just let their mother miss her appointment. So they push through, and pile on the work load.

I see this all around me, in different aspects of my life, and it saddens me. It’s unfair. These women are putting their dreams and personal goals on hold, because the people around them don’t know the meaning of responsibility and consideration.

My mother has always told me, what other people do is none of my business. My only concern is doing what I have to do, and doing it right. That’s what I do, I take care of my responsibilities the best I can. The problem begins when people come to me, looking to lighten their load. I tend to say yes, because I can sympathize. Unfortunately, it eventually goes from lightening a load, to completely dropping off their responsibilities. Sometimes I fight it, but I usually just do what’s asked of me.

I already see where this is headed, and I’m not having it. I haven’t worked this hard to be limited by other people. Some people will be inconvenienced for a while but it needs to be done. I’m not anyone’s personal assistant.