Latinos & Mixed Values

Appearances matter a lot more than they ought to. A significant other will first be judged on their appearance, and then on their education, aspirations, personality, and loyalty. Marriage is not so much a companionship, as it is economic security. And tradition, no matter how ignorant and irrational, is always followed.

What irks me more than this though, is the constant romantic advice thrown at me by people who have failed/deteriorating marriages. People who have only been in unstable, often problematic relationships, that think marrying a white upper middle class man is the only way to be happily married, and be with satisfied life.

I have a whole different idea of happiness and success, and it doesn’t rely on a man’s socioeconomic status. I am so done with the over abundance of sexism in this culture, and the stupidity I witness on a day to day basis. The next time someone offers me a suggestion about my relationship, I’m going to hand them a mirror, and ask if they are truly happy. Because I really shouldn’t be following their footsteps if all it’s gotten them is bitterness and regret.