Top 5 — Latina Point

People telling me how I feel is definitely in my Top 5 Biggest Pet Peeves. The idea that someone thinks they know me better than I know myself is just incomprehensible. Quite a few friends and family members do this to me and it just irks me.

Sometimes this happens with simple things.

Ex 1.

I’m in my room it’s about 75 degrees outside. I’m cold because more often than not I’m cold, so my windows aren’t up. My mother comes into the room and tells me I’m must be dying in here from the heat. I tell her no, I’m actually pretty chilly. She NEGATES my comment and tells me how hot I must be and then goes and opens my windows so the breeze can come through.

Of course mom you’re right, I don’t know what got into me. I’m definitely hot that’s why I’ve been sitting in this room for hours with the window AND door closed, and a long sleeve shirt on. It’s a good thing you pointed that out to me -_-

Really? REALLY?? Why would I not know if I’m hot? Why would I torture myself in the heat if I had an option to cool off? And why does it bother you?

ugh moving on.

Other times it happens with things that are a little more serious. Like when people try to tell me what emotion I’m feeling, and then put it in their minds that I’m in denial and try to convince me of what I’m feeling. Let me point out that it’s usually something negative.

Ex 2.

I tend to post a lot on FB, Twitter and Tumblr and I have friends/acquaintances in all 3. I often post to vent, so people will come up to me and tell me I’ve been upset lately, or bitter, or sad. I appreciate the concern but they’re wrong so I explain how I’m pretty happy, I just had a rough morning or w/e. The person will then say no you’re DEFINITELY pissed/bitter/sad. By now I’m a little on edge so again I very patiently, try to explain that I just had a bad day or how a lot of little things have been upsetting me lately but overall I’m pretty happy. Then what usually happens is that the person will attempt to prove to me what I’m feeling…because I’m clearly misinformed.

The NERVE!

I choose what to post on these social sites. They only get to see what I want them to see. There are quite a few enjoyable/happy moments that definitely outweigh anything negative I’ve experienced and decided to post about, but I choose not to display them because they’re private and/or I don’t want people asking questions. Only because I don’t write a detailed post/status/tweet about it doesn’t mean I didn’t experience it.

Also my current mood isn’t a representation of what I’ve been like recently. Only because you caught me in a bad mood doesn’t mean I’ve been depressed all week. Things happen, maybe I got some bad news?

What really drives me crazy is when they try to use me not smiling as proof…

First off I don’t usually walk around with a smile on my face. Sorry I’m not a clown. Second, I also have school work, a job, and a other responsibilities on my mind. I’m probably exhausted or thinking about my next task.

Third, if I look sad to you ask me if I am. Don’t go and assume I have issues. I have no problem being honest or telling you I rather not speak about it.

Ok this is becoming a rant. But my point is that I know what I’m feeling, whether it’s temperature or emotional. I’ve known myself for 21 years now and I’m pretty confident in my ability to decipher basic feelings. I really don’t need to be told.